Video Of The Day : BI RAIN MTV My life is fraught with misunderstandings.
When I was younger in my early adolescent age, I was noted in school as Father Daniel. My classmates could not understand my devotion towards God and my intense passion for His people and His works. On the contrary, while I was in Church, I was treated with respect and adoration from fellow christian peers. The intimate knowledge that I had of God was graciously shown through my behaviour and towards my fellow school mates. The former understood. The latter did not.
Thus, Father Daniel was birthed. 12 years old in primary 6 to be exact. I was in someways treated like an outcast simply because I professed God on my lips and behaved in loving ways which few could identify with. Fellow students assumed that I wanted to gain attention by literally behaving in an uncool manner.
They didn't understand.
I loved God. I remembered my Sunday School teacher, Mr Colin, asking me of the 5 fold ministries, which I would like to be. The 5 fold ministries were : Apostle, Prophet, Evangelist, Pastor and Teacher. Or we could even choose to be just helpers. I said Apostle. Apostles are staunch believers who serve God in absolute full capacity. Known to be of the highest calling in the Christian Circles. Few can be apostles. Very few. Yet I grew up loving God to such a huge extent. Maybe the intensity and the passion I had, when shown forth to people around me, it got misunderstood easily. I didn't feel the need to act suave and cool. I was popular in school for my athleticism, however, I also did receive unwanted attention in the form of disgust from fellow peers regarding my intimate devotion to God.
Romeo, Romeo, Where Art Thou?
I grew up with an extremely strong notion of love. I believed in TRUE LOVE. The existence of real genuine love would surely exist I thought. Something amazingly strong and powerful as the idea of love would fill my life with the ultimate happiness, joy and laughter. The love I am referring to, is not God's love but more of earthly love between two romantically linked individuals. Throughout my teenage years, I had only one thing in mind, Love. I believed when I love someone or someone loves me, if we were to enter into a compromise of a relationship, it would be the loveliest thing to happen. Indeed it happened. I fell in love.
I fell in love 4 times in 13 years. Also fell out of love 4 times. Learnt that True Love is really difficult. Whom we thought were our soul mates, turned out to be cheaters, liars, mother-f***ing son of a bit**. It sure hurt really bad then. The point here is that, I still believed in love and being such a sucker for love, people around me didn't understand. Yes, many mentioned money is important. But it surely isn't the most important thing to me. Money is a need. It is a tool. It is a means to an end. Not the end itself.
Love is. Love is everything. I could sacrifice for love. I could die for love.
Friends think I am emotionally weak. Maybe. Friends think I have got my priorities wrong. Maybe. Friends think my concept of love is outdated and no longer holds true in today's modern society. Maybe.
Somehow it's always noted that I am trying too much, to hard and too long for love to be true. Peers sneer and laugh at my preposterous declaration of love. They didn't understand my heart and my nature. I didn't feel a need to join them in acting cool and super savvy. I had a mind of my own.
So there, getting misunderstood for showing my girlfriends too much love (pampering?), too much time (Friends not important?) and too much efforts(Doing so much yet failing in my relationship). They think all I really want is love and nothing else. Please........ sigh...... I do know I need to work to make a decent living. I know I still have other friends who care for me too. I understand. But they didn't understand.
Misunderstandings are a great source of pain and heartaches. It can be fatal and destroy a genuine friendship. It surely can destroy love. I hate misunderstandings. Believe me, misunderstandings mixed with Jealousy, Anger and Stubborness will create HELL. And Hell knows no fury like a woman scorned......
Keeping Misunderstandings At Bay
3 Cs are crucial.
1. Clear Communication
Practically I endeavour to speak very good English so I could communicate clearly and effectively with my peers and love ones. Good language definitely does help. Communicating our thoughts and ideas across clearly with good language skills will lessen the probability of an erupting misunderstanding.
Good characters tend to receive trust more. If one is of a good integrity and has a strong reputation, sometimes, they do not even need to explain and they would be cleared of any misunderstandings. Its strange sometimes but good characters will always find its way into the hearts of many.
When all else fails, it takes courage to face up and clear a misunderstanding. It takes courage to walk up to a love one holding a bouquet of roses and lilies, kneel and tell her in front of the world that she is the one he loves. There is no substitute to courage. It comes from within one's soul and only when you want something enough, hunger for it enough, desperate for it enough, then courage itself will manifest. When it does, amazing stories will be told for years to come.
"Misunderstanding is but a temporary glitch in the simple minds of humans"
So when was the last time you had a Big Misunderstanding?