Sunday, December 04, 2005

Appreciation & My Genting Trip

29th Nov to the 1st Dec 2005 I went up to Genting Highlands in Malaysia with my friends and colleagues, Cheryl, Dennis, Kristina and Glen. Drove in 2 cars, namely my Subaru Impreza and Cheryl’s IST.

Drove off at 6am from Singapore and arrived at 11am. It was freezing cold up there when we arrived at Genting Hotel. Got ourselves a nice room, arranged our stuffs a little and off we went, hunting for things to do.

There are many photos which I took so you guys can take your time and have a look at the cloudy entertainment landmark. I like cold places. Singapore is too hot. Hot hunks, hot babes and also hot weather… Too hot la.

Appreciation

Sometimes in life we take for granted the simplest things. Sometimes we live to regret it. I am sure many of us have made the foolish mistake of forgetting to thank someone who has done us a kind deed or someone who has always remembered us.

When I was young, I was brought up the Christian way. They taught me how to appreciate life itself and the people around me. These I have held dear. Learning to appreciate someone didn’t come by all that natural. When have you last heard a kid saying thank you to an adult for the sweets given to him without prompting from his parents or guardians? Showing appreciation does not come naturally.

One rule of my life. Forget the transgressions which people have done so against me, remember the goodness they have shown forth to me. Then again, I am only human and I do make my fair share of mistakes.

I like telling people thank you. I like my loved ones to know I care and I mean it. I have no qualms about saying sorry when I am wrong or admitting to mistakes made. From real life friends to blogging friends, I believe I have shown in my own special ways my appreciation. The Tribute in one of my post is one such Appreciation token.

Many people use different methods to show their appreciation. Let me name a few.

1. Time: Spending time with someone is probably the most costly and under-rated form of appreciation. Time is money. Time and tide wait for no man. Time is not refundable. Time is commitment. To choose to give time, is to choose to give much of oneself. If someone is to busy to give you that time, then you are not important enough for him to give you that time. Time is so important because one day, we will all run out of time. The importance of Time cannot be emphasize more.

2. Effort: Effort is a beautiful thing. It is a sole requirement for me to be touched by any gal. If a lady decides to sit there and look pretty, then I am sorry, she isn’t for me. I need the lady to show me that she is interested and by her eager consistent actions, I will naturally be touched. Likewise, most people have this saying,” it’s the thought that counts”. Bull shit. Thinking about the person isn’t the same as doing something for that person. I would prefer to send an sms, talk, hang out, give or do something for the person whom I want to appreciate. Thinking alone isn’t good enough. Its simply lazy appreciation. Effort requires a sacrifice of time, energy, actions and intentional deliberate purpose. Example: Broken Promise Valerie baked a cake for her boyfriend on his birthday. However she thinks it looks weird, its still marvelous effort on her part. Her boyfriend should feel lucky. That’s effort.

3. Money: Money is not an end itself. It is a means to an end. Simply put, it’s a tool, which we can use to achieve certain objectives. For this occasion, we need money to buy gifts, dinner, support certain causes and even plan surprises. Giving even 1 cent to a person whom we appreciate makes us that 1-cent poorer. No one should ever say that any gift or token that cost money is too little and means nothing to the giver. Most of us earn limited amounts of money and I am sure most of you agree that money is really hard to come by. We have to spend as little as possible, save enough and try and increase our income to be able to set aside enough to even utilize some of our funds to show our appreciation to someone we care. So do feel blessed when someone does actually use his or her money to shower you with appreciation.

4. Behaviour and Conduct: No point spending time, money and effort on someone then you behave like an idiot when you are with the person. Imagine you use money to buy a gift which took time to source and you actually did spend time with the person whom you appreciate and then behave like a childish petty idiot when the person doesn’t reciprocate your goodness. Be gentlemanly, guys. Be ladylike, girls. Good conduct of oneself like opening the doors for your mum, girlfriend or someone you like is also a good way to show your filial piety, love and appreciation for that person. Another way to understand this pointer is, imagine your friend takes you out to buy you dinner which cost money and time but never offers to carry your heavy things which you are carrying with you. Maybe he’s oblivious to your sufferings but that’s what I call, horrid behaviour.

5. Tone and Speech: If you appreciate someone, believe me, your tone and speech will change. There is no one who will shout across the room in an angry voice telling another person that he or she is appreciated. That kind of guy is kuku. Show your appreciation by speaking sincerely and with utmost pitiful eyes, the person will surely melt and receive your appreciation with heartfelt thanks.

There are probably more pointers to this topic Appreciation; this list is definitely not exhaustive. The reason I wanted to highlight this in my latest post is because I do think it’s important to show appreciation to people whom we care and touch us. Very often we neglect those who has helped us in our times of need and forgotten them.

The world will be a better place if we are not short on our show of appreciation. Showing appreciation will not lessen our sincerity but rather, it would augment our characters as someone who knows how to show gratitude when it matters.

Appreciation, I have learnt this lesson well. May it serve you well too.

*When was the last time you really showed your appreciation to someone who has helped you or made a difference in your life?
"Gratitude takes 3 forms; a feeling in the heart, an expression in words , and giving in return"


35 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi. new here... hope you dont mind me reading your interesting blog =). just think it sweet for friends to text to thank each other for the company after meeting up. personally i'd feel greatly appreciated each time & yeah, i do return such texts or begin with such texts. however it's a shame to admit there're only a handful of such people i know atm. im studying in QLD (Aust). here in brissy, my ex-houssie (we're S'poreans) has given a term to singaporean guys, "domestic donkeys", for the very reason of them being nice to us for motives like borrowing the vacuum cleaner but it was returned late & always without thanks. just citing a personal encounter here, no offence or the like involved. well erm, lesson for me: be nice & yet dont expect others to be nice? ... no expectations, no disappointments? muahahaha ... ~ angel =)

5:21 AM  
Blogger brokenpromises said...

yeah he shld.... but i don tink becoz i make something for him, he shld appreciate my effort. Human r lidat de. U give i take lor..muahahah... ANiway u like so much i baked u cookie lor for chirstmas..hehehe

12:04 PM  
Blogger El@inE said...

lol~yah...I agree on wad u sae...the baking is cool...hey,at least ur bf eat it wo..mine is like..i baked him a cookie(gingerbread man)2yrs ago,its still there...lol~

coz erm..its abit too hard bah...he say wanna keep as souvenior...so he can always see and remember it...erm...excuse accepted??lol~

2:51 PM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

Hi Anonymous Angel,
Thank you for reading my post. Hmmm.... i learnt something new today from you. "Domestic Donkeys". Actually it sounds kinda fun. I am quite alike to you. I like sending thank u and appreciation messages out and in turn respond actively to them too. Of course no expectations, no disappointments. Then again, I will always know one thing, the fact that my friends or good friends, since they r my friends and not some strangers, there will always be some kinda expectations albeit maybe a lesser level of expectations. I will be kidding myself if I say there is totally zero expectations.

Valerie, Your BF MUST APPRECIATE your efforts. The give and take concept always has an underlying reason. Its for that reason that we feel appreciated, thankful and meaningful. Yes, sure, Bake me something. Got a friend who owes me Liquered Berries. So u wanna bake what? Cookies? Really? Dun wan hard hard ones like Elaine's okie? hehehe....

Elaine, no wonder your bf wanna keep a perishable like GingerbreadMan cookie as a souvenir! Its Hard! heheheh.. dun wanna break my teeth. But u can cook and bake well i think. Remembered your receipes. Wanna cook something? Do I have a share? hehehe....

3:35 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

I agreed with hot weather.

But at least we have a series of hot babes here, hehe...

3:55 PM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

Oh really? U think so Starlandliu? Kekeke... So tell me, who are the hot babes to you here? i'd like to know too. Hehehe... start naming them pls?

7:12 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

No idea lah....

hehehe

9:52 PM  
Blogger old beng said...

You post reminded me of the time when me and my cha-bo-lang went to Genting some 15 years years. Think we should go up there again and compare the scenery now and back then.

Talkiing about gf cooking, my cha-bo-lang used to bake cake and cook many different types of food for me during our courting time and this good point of her has continued into our marriage life now and she still cook new variety of food for us every week.

The right way to capture a man's heart is through his stomach is definitely right, at least for my case.

9:53 AM  
Blogger Kurakat said...

Meaningful entry, this is. =)

10:33 AM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

STARLANDLIU! Basket, u say got alot of HOT BABES here then now I ask u who they are, u say no idea! Dun be shy la.... say la.... hahahhaha.....

Old Beng, its nice to know your gf then who is your wife now, is so sweet. Cooking is really a skill. And I know nuts about cooking. Maggi can still do though. U r a lucky man, have home cook food for you! Hehehhee....

Kurakat,
Thanks bro! Go Genting if u can, u will appreciate the coldness there! Fabulous!

11:49 AM  
Blogger J.J. said...

Seems like you enjoyed your trip ;)

I like cool weather too, hot weather always makes me dizzy.

How nice if I could live in Genting for 365 days ;)

12:59 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

Why?? So eager to find out whose the babes??

5:04 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

I am referring to Singapore got hot babes, not the hot babes here lah.

5:05 PM  
Blogger F¡яєвџяN said...

Ur post really made me think alot dude...totally cool man

12:09 AM  
Blogger blueapple said...

Hmmm.. learnt something about appreciation in this post.. =)

2:57 AM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

JJ, I like cool cold weather. Heat is too much in Singapore. Yea... the idea of living in Genting is tempting though not practical. Kekeke.....

Errr... Starlandliu hah.... err.... so who do u think r the Hot Babes In Singapore? Like to hear your opinions. Kekeke....

Fireburn, sure hope it helps one way or another. Cheers.

Blue Apple, may we all learn together!

12:38 PM  
Blogger 孺子牛 said...

Nice to hear that you enjoyed this trip.

The last time I went there was ten over years ago, kind of missing that place. However, I do travel to other parts of Malaysia.

1:04 PM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

Hey bro! Yea... it was a cool cold trip. The great thing about this Genting place is that is super cold! I like the coldness. Unlike Singapore, hot as sahara desert.

Take ur family up there la.... but dun gamble. Lots of shopping to do too.

1:58 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

Go up to Genting, take a short rest, put on your jacket and punch the first world plaza. That's what we go Genting for.

4:08 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

Is it very safe to drive Singapore car to Genting??

I heard many cars got stolen and lost at Malaysia.

4:14 PM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

Hmmm.... some cars do get stolen. My car is not a mercedes Benz and although also not common, i would like to think its still relatively safe.

Drive up if u can. Kekekeke.....

4:43 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

Maybe. But car is too expensive to afford.

Renting of car is even more expensive.

5:45 PM  
Anonymous Life is beautiful said...

Hiyaz... no wonder no reply when I msged to ask if u were still alive. Glad to see that you took a break. Lagi more glad to see that you enjoyed yourself and came back all fresh. Viva la vie! =)

11:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi again Jade, everyone's entitled their opinion...lol. hey dont have to call me anonymous =( cos i havent a blog, just angel will do ... muahahaha ...*p. anyway i stumbled upon here whilst doing online research trying to find motivation to formulate a major assignment - short story (it's to be as original as possible so im basically looking at how people write their feelings across... hehe... so now worries about me ever copying, etc). happy blogging, ya! ~ cheers, angel

8:03 AM  
Blogger Kurakat said...

After your encouragement, JFE, I feel like going Genting for a cool breeze. Haha.. But not this month. Have many things to attend to..

4:09 PM  
Blogger Kurakat said...

Are you on leave? From blogging? =)

12:11 AM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

I have been hell busy. Sorry. I needed as much time to settle my work and my personal effects coz of the festive season. Will come back but later. After christmas likely.

Sorry.

7:36 PM  
Blogger Righteous said...

Ya, after you are back, I got tons of Battlefield 2 videos for you guys to enjoy it before the new year begin.

2:01 AM  
Blogger J.J. said...

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9:48 AM  
Blogger J.J. said...

Jade,

Merry Christmas !!!

;)

4:42 PM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

Merry Christmas JJ!!! kekeke....

7:02 PM  
Blogger dandan...™ said...

Genting..tooooo cold le.....
wooooff....

5:21 PM  
Blogger Jade Falcon Elite said...

Dandan.......

Hmmm.... never seen u here before..... Kekek....... Hi.

3:41 AM  
Blogger Righteous said...

Happy New Year!!

8:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thats genting right?

1:59 PM  

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