A Story That Inspired Me
Unfortunately, her father passed away around that time and ever since then, she has been supporting her family, working hard at her tender age to raise enough money to pay for her own school fees(How come they didn't go ask the school for help?) and juggling school work with her part-time work and family chores. Her mum earned little then and her brother wasn't much of a help. She dragged through 17 years, putting herself through Mass Comm from Ngee Ann(Wa lau.... my favourite course but got no chance coz got no talent... sigh) and coming of age now a fully commendable young lady at 29 who has just completed her degree studying part-time, working full-time and being the sole-bread winner for her family of 3 including herself.
Her hardlife as she sees it, although really tough and many times breaking down crying, little does she know that its her molding process. 17 years of molding process. God works in ways that men cannot understand. His plans are not our plans. His ways are not our ways. I cannot represent God to say what He's gonna do but 1 thing I know from The Word Of God is, He will not test you beyond what you cannot bear. This little lady friend seems hardened by her past tough experiences in life. It has always hung onto her heart and she hasn't quite let go. She probably thinks everyone just wants to treat her like a hotel, coming into her life for a short moment in time, and leaving soon after. It may not be. Friends come and friends go. Most friends are not forever. Even relationship love isn't forever. All good things must come to an end someday.
I felt her burdens and know it has been hell of a tough time. Then again we were born to conquer the odds in life. I have mentioned to my dear friend that whilst she is dwelling on her past traumatic 17 years, there are alot of unfortunate souls stuck in Africa, starving, homeless, unhealthy and penniless. I have seen those pitiful faces. Campaigns are on-going even now as we speak to help our foreign brethens. When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. Learned this from a friend, Yanling Delynn Angeline Ho. While things look bleak and times are difficult, let us all remember that there are still many people out there who are worse than us.
I know my dear friend has been strong and has been looking toward God for emotional, mental and spiritual support. Well-done. She has touched my heart with her story and believe me, the story of that 17 years hasn't even ended. The story didn't have enough time for it to reveal all that happened in that 17 years. I am proud that she is so tough, strong and indomitable. Maybe life itself has its own ways of sustenance, putting us through different levels of difficulties and testing us to its ultimate limits. We must try to persevere and overcome the odds. In so doing, we must take care of ourselves even better. Especially now when our bodies are aging and mentabolism is slowing. However she suffers from insomnia and usually cannot get enough sleep. On the other hand, she works terribly hard. Guess her boss must have been glad to have found such a dedicated executive staff.
For now, my dear friend has taken a break. A break which I do not know if she would return. I can only wait in anticipation. One thing I dun like about my this friend, she's darn too stubborn. Like my mother la... also very stubborn. Sigh... But I understand why stubborness set in. If anyone had led the kinda life she has led, guess we would be stubborn too.
Because life can be so tough even in the near future, all the more, the lessons and extreme tough conditions we have been through, must make us all the more stronger and more enduring than ever before. It must not make us more pessimistic or melancholic but we should try to be more sanguine and optimistic. Its not such a marvellous thing to be a pessimistic optimist.
Be glad that:
- God helped us through until now
- We have all our limbs still attached and are healthy
- We have our basic needs met eg. Food, Shelter, Clothing and Job
- We have naggy friends because they are usually caring friends
There are still so many wonderful things that we could be glad for but even if I spent the next 1 year talking about it, the list wouldn't end.
Whatever we do, there is always a choice. The very first thing God gave us, is the power to choose. The experiences one gets in life, determines how he or she will choose. The power then is yours..... to choose your path. Whether you smile or frown, whether you hate or love, the sun will still rise and the sun will still set.
This is the story that inspired me. Agape.
*A Bouquet of Roses For You Hotel Solace.
"Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude."